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Mating in Captivity PDF-Esther Perel takes on tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

In her 20 years of clinical experience, Perel has treated hundreds of couples whose home lives are empty of passion. They describe relationships that are open and loving, yet sexually dull. What is going on?

In this explosively original book, Perel explains that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor is antithetical to erotic desire for both men and women. Sexual excitement doesn’t always play by the rules of good citizenship. It is politically incorrect. It thrives on power plays, unfair advantages, and the space between self and other. More exciting, playful, even poetic sex is possible, but first we must kick egalitarian ideals and emotional housekeeping out of our bedrooms.

While Mating in Captivity shows why the domestic realm can feel like a cage, Perel’s take on bedroom dynamics promises to liberate, enchant, and provoke. Flinging the doors open on erotic life and domesticity, she invites us to put the “X” back in sex.

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Mating in Captivity PDF is one of the best medical books for students and professionals on the subject of Psychology . It is a must download.

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Mating in Captivity PDF

Hello, I’m Esther… I imagine a world where we experience a sense of aliveness and vitality in our relationships, because the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. I’ve dedicated my life and career to understanding and improving human relationships. Let’s continue to learn together.’

Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 20 million views and her international bestseller Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence became a global phenomenon translated into 25 languages. Her newest book is theNew York Times bestseller The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity. Esther is also an executive producer and host of the award-winning podcast Where Should We Begin? Learn more at or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on instagram

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  • Listening Length 8 hours and 8 minutes
    Author Esther Perel
    Narrator Esther Perel
    Whispersync for Voice Ready Release Date January 01, 2006
    Publisher HarperAudio
    Program Type Audiobook
    Version Unabridged
    Language English
    Identification Number B000IB0EYI
  • Book Name : Mating in Captivity PDF

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Brian Richards “Gets to the heart of the matter in rather frank ways that some authors skirt around or dither about. There’s an age old clichés about marital problems occurring because of a lack of communication, and the basis of the book seems to be just that; problems occur because couples just don’t tell each other what’s really going on in their minds. This can be for all sorts of reasons – fear of criticism, fear of looking weird or stupid, protecting someone else’s feelings, presumption about what the other partner wants, or just plain lack of awareness.
Perel shows that many of our hopes, fears, desires and fantasies are not that weird at all, in fact they’re more common than we realise and are mostly part of a normal, healthy mindset. Its just that we’ve been conditioned down certain routes and traditions of whats acceptable and what isn’t. So much so that we don’t always feel comfortable disclosing our needs and desires to even the closest person to us.
In some of her many talks that appear on youtube, Perel often hints at questioning whether monogamy is for everyone or whether its realistic at all. In the book, in one of the later chapters, she spells out her view more clearly… that monogamy is just as much a choice as any lifestyle choices, and although it’s a model that fits many people, that it should not be regarded as the only way to be. She also points out the hypocrisy and changing definitions of monogamy (ie, one sexual partner for life). You could have two long term relationships, and consider yourself monogamous in both of them (!?), but as soon as you slept with the second partner, you were not monogamous!
She gives lots of examples of couples who talked things over and thrashed things out under her guidance and with her insight, and in each case the couples eventually came good and made the adjustments needed for a more fulfilling sex life. My only criticism is that she never gives examples of when, having disclosed their innermost thoughts and secrets, the couple realise they are incompatible, not on the same wavelength and split up! Taking a risk and opening up to your partner can have wonderfully positive effects, but it could also be a deal-breaker, and Perel doesn’t seem to fully acknowledge this. It could be argued, though, that the risk of not communicating, putting your head in the sand and trying to maintain the status quo has its own unhappy consequences.
Nevertheless, it is an honest, helpful and thought-provoking read for any couple in a long term relationship who have started to wonder where has all the magic gone and why is sex becoming a bit boring and predictable.”

Dan Nicholas “Got to this book late and am I glad for it. When it came out I was newly remarried and didn’t need and wouldn’t have heard the message. But seven years into a mid-life marriage I needed tips on answering Ester Perel’s Big Question (from her excellent TED Talk): Can you want what you already have? Her answer seemed to be as I read: Sure you can. But it’s work. And you better understand what’s going on first.

Add to this that my whole arousal system of mind, body, soul and sex is older, as I’m in my mid 60s. Love what she said when asked how many times she’d been married: “Four. To the same man.” This woman and mom and wife and therapist and speaker of 6 languages not only reinvented herself to stay hot for her man but to stay interesting for her two teen children living with mom/dad as a foursome. Yes, sex as a family value. From Belgium and Israel, her husband and two kids live or lived together when she wrote this from their flat in NYC. It’s one thing to write how to stay hot for each other while married; it’s another to pull it off and then even be able to communicate the complex system that makes it possible.

I gave one to a peer guy friend and one to my son. It’s that good and helpful. They say when the student is ready the teacher will appear. Don’t read this book too soon. Or too late either. But buy three copies and get ready. I say.”

Veronica T. “While I do recognize that Esther Perel is a famous therapist, the author backs up her hypothesis with her patients’ experiences and most of them are completely out of the ordinary. I will cite one single example of the many this book has. Certain men have difficulty expressing their interest and love to women (what a surprise), and this guy could not maintain relationships because of this until he found a japanese (or chinese woman). They fell in love and it worked out so well precisely because they could not talk. He did not speak japanese, the woman did no speak English in the beginning, so they were forced to show how much they loved each other without talking. While this is a very romantic story, honestly, how often is a regular person going to encounter a situation like this? What is the point in giving these kind of examples when most of the people are not going to experience something like that? When reading this book I felt as if I were reading advice from Cosmopolitan. Do not waste your money or time reading this book. It is not worth it.”


Matthew “I am a female and have been married for 18 years. This book was honestly disturbing. My interpretation of the entire book is to create uncertainty by acknowledging that your spouse could leave, allow them to flirt and been seen as sexual individuals outside of your marriage. It says things like make love to your partner as if they were someone you didn’t care about, dressing up as someone else and going to a bar to pretend, mentions that people have open marriages disconnecting love and sex making them 2 separate things, mentions fantasies. Most of the client examples are not the everyday struggles of marriage. No practical suggestions were given. Felt like this was a waste of my time time and money to read.”



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