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I hate to give this book 2 stars. It was REALLY good up until this part. It was even-handed and also explained how BOTH the sexes need variety. But then this chapter devolves into how “men need to have affairs” and “need variety” and “younger women” WITHOUT even acknowledging the truths they’d mentioned earlier in the book that the SAME is true for women.

(Also, perhaps these super “enlightened” authors should consult the research that shows old sperm is as bad for healthy babies as old eggs. Certainly in a fully poly society old men could participate in sex with younger women without affecting anything negatively as the younger men’s sperm would win the competition, but in modern scenarios old men “spreading their seed” are spreading poor quality sperm and harming the children that result. But hey, let’s not let this science get in the way of reinforcing the same old story we all knew before we picked up this book. We did NOT need this book to tell us the old canard that men need variety and younger P*ssy. We’ve ALL heard this a thousand times. You know what story we needed? That WOMEN DO TOO. And you were doing quite well until this one chapter. Shame on you.)

As for “men need to sleep with younger women” this is debateable given all the younger men who chase older women. (You aren’t a cougar if the rabbits chase you.) But it’s also not a problem. If people want to have different aged lovers, whatever. It’s just that this book was so groundbreaking, only to circle the wagons RIGHT BACK AROUND to the supposed things they are trying to break down.

They quoted the book “What Do Women Want” while ignoring all the research that suggests women actually lose sexual interest in their husbands far more quickly and irrevocably than men do in their wives. Yes, men do lose interest over time due to boredom and need for variety. But so do women. And women do so more quickly. Women’s entire sex drive can completely dry up in these sorts of monogamous situations.

Additionally, in the book “What Do Women Want?”, (and these studies were even referenced in Sex at Dawn), it is shown that women need MORE sexual variety than men. All the evidence we see is men cannot please more than one woman at a time, but women can please more than one man at a time. It seems fairly self evident that we lived in tribal situations in which women were basically getting gang banged by multiple men in one go, and the men were doing this with most of the women. So EVERYONE got variety.

Why ELSE would women fantasize about gang bangs AND men also watch porn involving the same exact activity (women getting gang banged.)? These ideas were hinted at but not fully explored. I mean if you can’t go all the way with your theories, why bother and waste our time with it?

With regards to women’s loss of sexual interest in their husbands, if it doesn’t dry up completely, they are as likely to have affairs as men, or just to end the marriage. Women initiate 69% of divorces, and not all of these are because the man stepped out. In many cases it’s because she can’t stand to have sex with her husband anymore.

Marriage is a dead institution and a pointless institution. People should not enter into it and they should keep their lovers as lovers and not try to turn their lovers into “other job descriptions”, nor should they try to get monogamy out of their partner or try to restrict them and who they can see or sleep with. Marriage is an institution designed to prop up monogamy, misogyny, and control of women’s sexuality.

The authors seem to think it is just fine to continue to prop up this harmful institution, while also continuing to tell women to “look the other way”. And then implying that marriages should be “opened” to “save the marriage”. Uh, how about no. How about we follow the natural conclusions that have been drawn from all the research up to this point instead of reverting back into some 1950’s BS.

I’m highly disappointed that these two authors spent the entire book explaining why BOTH men and women need sexual variety, and why we are BOTH poly-wired naturally and NEITHER sex is monogamous, only to devolve back to regressive nonsense because they can’t take their theories all the way to their logical and correct conclusions.

By the way. The US is the highest user of Viagra in the western world, and it’s mainly due to the harms of circumcision, something that any review on sexuality that delves into anatomy and proper functioning of that anatomy should have taken the time to consider.